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Is there hope to beat pornography addiction?

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Exposure to pornography often happens at a young age. For many, this is all it takes to ignite an addiction that can last years. Every method imaginable exists to end pornography addiction. After trying everything without lasting success, one may wonder, is there hope to end pornography addiction?

Yes, there is hope to end pornography addiction. I am certain by the end of reading this article you will agree. In fact, you have a secret weapon against it that you probably aren’t aware of!

Your Heart’s Condition is Hopeful

Judging by the fact that you are reading this article, your conscience is convicting you about your pornography addiction. You know it’s wrong, and clearly you feel hopeless. And that is good news! It means that you have a heart that hasn’t fully given over. Your heart is a non-rebellious heart that seeks to do good. Many addicts are OK with an addiction, some even prideful. Instead, you are fighting against this addiction. Therefore, you have hope.

Furthermore, you may not believe it now, but you are going to use your convicted heart to eventually beat pornography addiction. That’s because the key to winning is the state conviction of your heart. More on this later.

Why You Haven’t Quit Pornography Addiction

Thus far, you have been attacking the symptoms. Tricks such as browser filters, support groups, trying a different habit, or even hypnotism. It hasn’t worked, and it’s no wonder you question if there is hope in beating your pornography addiction. Addressing only the symptoms without identifying the core, underlying cause is an exercise in futility. In order to successfully quit pornography addiction once and for all, you must look deeper.

1. You Don’t Actually Want to Quit

The answer to this question is quite simple. You haven’t beaten pornography addiction because you don’t want to. Rather, the fleshly part of you doesn’t want to end pornography addiction. This fleshly part of you is the alternate personality cohabitating your body. That is, as some refer, the “ego”. Biblically, it is called the “flesh” and it wages war against the spirit (Romans 6:19, Galatians 5:17, James 4:1, 1 Peter 2:11).

Don’t be afraid to accept that you have an alternate personality. Such a thing is not a disorder. It’s how you were created. However, without understanding it, you can not hope to control it.

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2. You Allow Your Flesh to Reign Supreme

If you find yourself unable to break an addiction (whether to pornography or anything) it means your flesh is your master. Your flesh is the king and you are a slave. Shackles are on your wrists and you simply do what your king tells you. It points and you go. Your ego is in complete control and you cower like a frightened puppy.

Galatians 5:1 – For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.

3. Your Self Control is Dormant

This is because you haven’t exercised self control. It’s a muscle that requires training, but yours hasn’t exercised in a long time. Because of this, it’s weak. Therefore when your flesh wants something, you can’t help but give in.

Have you ever wondered why the Bible emphasizes fasting?

Not to worry though, there is hope for your pornography addiction. All you have to do is awaken your dormant self control muscle. You can exercise this muscle whenever you want. It isn’t limited to only when your flesh demands pornography. Self control can be exercised against any fleshly desire. Examples of this could be food (hello fasting!) social media, gaming, or even sex. If your flesh wants something, practice saying “no”. Then, say “no” for longer and longer periods of time. Your self control will become stronger and stronger. Soak in these verses on self control:

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2 Timothy 1:7

for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.

1 Corinthians 9:27

But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.

You will likely discover the first phase of your rise to the throne of your body will be met with opposition. Actually, you can imagine the kind of tantrum a 2 year old child might throw when they don’t get their way. That is exactly what your ego will do. It wants pornography and you’re going to say “no”. Mentally prepare yourself for all the tricks it will try to steal authority over your body and change your mind.

4 Reasons for Hope to End Your Pornography Addiction

1. You Are More Powerful Than You Believe

Your flesh doesn’t want you to know this. But you have to approve every decision made in the body. The flesh is a false king who pretends to be in charge, but really still needs your signature. You carry all the authority, but you are unwilling to use it! The human spirit has an incredible amount of willpower. If only you will decide that you are the one in charge.

In fact, your willpower is so great that you can accomplish amazing feats. Many verified examples exist of people going long periods without sleep or food. Others endure extreme suffering by choice. However, people show willpower every day by waking up early, working hard or sticking to extreme diets. Once I changed my diet from primarily consisting of meat and carbs to a full vegan diet overnight, and persisted with it for 2 years. This should give you hope to end your pornography addiction!

2. You Can Change Your Desires

It may seem like a simple concept, but you may never have considered this before. That is, you can change your desires. To illustrate this, consider the kinds of foods that you enjoy eating now compared to when you were a child. Do you desire the same foods? Most likely, your childhood pallet was much different than it is now. Is it that your physiology changed so much from childhood to adulthood that it altered your taste buds? Perhaps in some small degree that may be true. However, the real change was in not in your tastebuds. Rather, the change was in your head. In reality, your knowledge changed and your practice changed causing a new desire to spring forth in your spirit.

Not all go through this transition, however. Some remain locked away in childish desires and behaviors for a lifetime. This is because some people never transition out of the self-fulfilling lifestyle that we all embraced as children. That’s what children do, is it not? Every moment of a child’s life is consumed in fulfilling their fleshly desires. Only through the ordination of rules, and eventually (hopefully) guidance and teaching, do our children learn self control. In this same way we become people having desires that line up with what is right, true, good, and holy.

Armed with the knowledge that changing your desires is entirely possible, you should have hope for ending your pornography addiction!

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Verses to consider:

  • Romans 13:13-14 – Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.
  • Ephesians 4:22-24 – To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
  • 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 – For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;

3. You Have Secret Weapon Against Porn Addiction

At the beginning of this article we examined the convicted state of your heart. Believe it or not, your heart is the secret weapon bringing hope against your pornography addiction. Hang for a second before you click back and allow me to explain.

What is the heart anyway? The heart is the part of your being that is home to the “good” behaviors in your character. These include but are not limited to hope, love, faith (or faithfulness), mercy, and joy. Another way to identify your heart is to call it your “spirit”. The ideal state of the spirit is that which produces all these character traits with abundance (see Galatians 5:22-26, Ephesians 4:1-3, 2 Peter 1:1-21). These are objective traits defined by God as “good”, though most atheists and agnostics naturally agree. For more information on objective morality, see our article on The Truth About Truth.

Why the Spirit is Significant

Your spirit is tuned in to your behaviors. Specifically, it is sensitive (ideally) to the ones that don’t sit right with its moral compass. Most of the time, we identify this feeling as our “conscience”. When you give your flesh the right of way and allow behaviors that don’t fit with what is good (such as pornography) your spirit becomes uncomfortable and convicts you of your wrongdoing.

This is the secret weapon! That is, your spirit. How is it a secret weapon? It is secret because you haven’t learned to use it. It is a weapon because it is designed specifically to inflict damage and defeat the enemy. That enemy is your flesh. Logically, the next question is “how to use it”? In order to use the secret weapon of your spirit against your pornography addiction, you must understand again what the spirit is. As stated above, it is the part of your being that produces the “good” character traits. When your spirit is engaged and producing good fruit, it will completely obliterate your flesh. In other words, put it to death (Galatians 5:16-24, Romans 6:6, Romans 8:5-13, Colossians 3:5). All you need to do in order to harness this weapon is grow spiritually.

If you want to learn more how to do this, we have a video and an article answering this question: How do you become more spiritual?

4. Others Have Overcome Pornography Addiction (and Other Addictions)

It should give you hope that others in your situation have successfully defeated addiction. Not just a few either, many people all over the world have overcome addiction. For some it was an overnight switch. However others slowly changed over months or even years. I don’t know what your story will look like, but I know you have the power to win.

Terry’s Story: How I Beat Alcohol Addiction

I went to the liquor store and was the first customer that morning. I know that because I got there before the manager did and stood outside the door waiting for him to unlock it. Vodka in-hand, I drove home. Still drunk from the night before I had a shot and sat down on the couch.

What happened next I can’t explain but it’s true. For a moment, I was completely sober. I came to myself like the prodigal in the mud with the pigs. I called Todd Cox and said “hey… I, I’m in trouble. I’m living a lie and I am drinking…”, he interrupted “I know”. I said, “you do”? He said, “yes I do. What do you want to do about it?” “Whatever it takes to be sober again and connected to God”, I replied. The next day I was admitted to the recovery ward at The Right Step in Wimberly, Texas and I got sober and even better I re-connected with the Lord.

I had a couple of small set backs in 2010 but I haven’t had a drink in over 10 years. Time is going by but rarely do I go a day without remembering that I am sober by the Grace of God.

Conclusion

After reading this article, my sincere desire is that you have gained some hope in your addiction to pornography. If you have your own story of how you beat addiction, and would like to share it please send it to us.

If this has been helpful for you, let us know in the comments!

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